I have shared in the past my passion about breastfeeding and that I do believe everyone should give it a try although it's not for everyone. After having a conversation with my midwife at my recent 6 week check up it really hit me that breastfeeding makes me feel like a super woman but sometimes I do feel like giving up.
The GOOD: Breastfeeding is a great way to really bond with your baby. As mom you are the only one who can give your baby the boobie. Your little one looks at you with those bright little eyes as if he or she is saying "thanks mom" (yes you can get that with a bottle too).
I honestly believe I have breastfeeding to thank for getting my body back in shape quicker but that can be argued by many women. Every pro- breastfeeding women or doctor will tell you that you are giving your baby the best start in life.
The BAD: You are waking up at all hours of the night when your baby wakes up hungry, there is no "here honey you feed the baby this time". While you are out you may want to bring an extra shirt incase your milk makers decide to overproduce and leak through your beautiful blouse. Oh did I mention the pads that you stick in your bra to help prevent leaking? Those don't always work if you are out for any period of time and your baby isn't hungry. You can also forget about those really cute shirts that are up higher, you are now shopping for anything with "easy access" because you don't want to be lifting your shirt up
The UGLY: The bad continues with the ugly. In those first few days of breastfeeding your nipples will be sore, cracked and even bleed. Your breast can get engorged and you really can feel the stretching as you go up a cup side or two as your supply comes in. Two bras is two different sizes is sometimes needed depending on the day and how much milk you have in. Once your milk is in you wake up in the middle of the night with a soaking wet bed, your boobies have decided that it was time to produce more milk in the middle of the night. That nice sticky liquid gold is all over you, your shirt is soaked and you just want to sleep.
You may and probably will get judged by those who do not breastfeed and get asked "why do you breastfeed?" You will get rude comments from some saying that its gross. Or my favorite is being told to "cover up".
When your baby does start teething you can count of a few tugs, painful, smile filled (from baby of course) tugs.
The real truth about Breastfeeding is that it takes a lot of strength to continue your journey. You will hear encouragement and discouragement. At times you will feel like giving up but it's important to surround yourself with a great support system. You have to remind yourself that this is what you feel is best for you and your baby. Whether you breastfeed for 1 day or 3 years, you are a super woman.
No one likes to tell you that it's not easy, that at moments you want to give up, you question your sanity and that you really do have to keep pushing yourself . We tend to not have the support that we need or the education about the difficulty of breastfeeding. On average a woman who gives up on breastfeeding does it within the first 2 weeks. Those who make it a little longer will likely give up within the next 4 weeks. What you aren't told is that it DOES get easier.
If you can't breastfeed for any reason you are NOT a failure, you tried and that's all that matters.