Ladies we all know how hard dating can be and when you add kids to the mix, it becomes a little more difficult. Something switches in our brains when we have kids and everything is instantly all about the kids, but sometimes single mothers need to think about themselves (we all know if momma isn't happen, no one is happy). That's where the attempt of dating with kids comes in.
Dating when you have children is no where near easy, first you have to make plans far in advance to find a baby sitter, then you have to tell your kids that mommy is leaving to hang out with a "friend" (you never want to introduce kids to the thought of mommy being with a man before your positive this guy is going to stick around), last you should tell your date you have children & that you have a "curfew". Sounds difficult doesn't it?
I'm here to tell you dating can happen when you have kids, it's not easy but if you find a man that understands your children come first you can make it work. I have been in a relationship for almost 6months now(it's been my dirty little secret) so far it's going wonderful. We started off the relationship being very open & honest, I broke it to him that I am a mother of two instantly & to my surprise that didn't scare him off. We had our first real date about a month after meeting, that's where the budget comes in. I explained to my boyfriend that it's important to me to save money and would like to see him do the same, our first date we went to the dollar movies and then had a nice yet cheap dinner at Olive Garden. If I'm being honest I have to say it was the best date I ever went on.
Now each month on our anniversary we do something fun but fits our budget, we have gone bowling, gone to the movies (Skip the drinks & food), movie night in. We discovered we don't need to go out to big fancy dinners, or do trips to theme parks. In these 6months we haven't spent much money on dates just to make sure our future is set with the children.
BIG ANNOUNCEMENT HERE: After falling in love (almost instantly) and the kids approving of "mommy's friend" he popped the big question. We have been planning a very low budget wedding for Fall of 2014.